Take 30 Seconds To Do This Every Day And You will Be Forever Changed
By Thomas
Koulopoulos Tom Koulopoulos is the author of 10 books and founder of
the Delphi Group , a 25-year-old Boston-based think tank and a past Inc.
500 company that focuses on innovation and the future of business. @
tkspeaks Founder, Delphi Group @ tkspeaks
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Courage is not a personality trait, it is a discipline.
I worked my way through college as a nurse's aid in a
Spinal Chord Injury Unit of a local Boston hospital. I had zero
qualifications for the job other than being strong enough to lift a
person from a bed to a wheel chair and back again.
The unit I worked in consisted of about 20 young adults,
from 19 to 30 years old, Each one was a quadriplegic, meaning that he or
she was paralyzed from the neck down. At best some had very limited use
of their arms, perhaps just the use of triceps or biceps, so that they
could flex their arm in or out but not both. What made their situation
especially difficult to comprehend was that each one had suffered their
injury in the prime of their lives usually doing what they loved;
diving, riding a motorcycle, horsing around with friends--random
circumstances that changed their lives in an instant and in a way that
is unimaginable to you and me.
"I felt an enormous sense of guilt for simply being able to walk."
By the end of my first day on the job I felt physically
and psychologically wasted from carrying the weight of this new reality.
When I got home waves of nausea washed over me as I tried desperately
to reconcile the sudden, very personal awareness of a life sentence to a
wheel chair with my own life. I felt an enormous sense of guilt for
simply being able to walk. Honestly, I just could't imagine going back
the next day, but I did. I'd like to say it was because of some sort of
deep-rooted sense of altruism. To be honest, it was because I really
needed the money.
Yet, what I didn't realize was that the bonds I would make
and the lessons these young men and women where going to teach me could
never carry a price tag and were ones I'd remember for the rest of my
life.
Courage: One Day at a Time
Each day for them was an incredible act of heroism, which
include innumerable acts of courage. Every little thing you and I take
for granted, from getting out of bed, to brushing our teeth, to using a
fork or spoon required enormous focus and effort. And yet, to a person,
none of them complained about their situation. It amazed and humbled me.
I remember thinking to myself, "What a lousy hand they've been dealt;
they have every reason to whine and curse." They didn't. Instead they
were among the most deeply inspiring, courageous, and grateful people
I've ever met.
What does all of this have to do with you and your business?
I'd like you to stop and think of the list of things you
have to do today. the entire list, including all of those things that
you've been putting off for a while now because you're just plain afraid
to take them on. Perhaps it's a tough conversation that you've dreaded
having with an associate or colleague. Or maybe there is a personal
issue that you've pushed aside because you fear the repercussions it
will have. Or a financial challenge that you're turning a blind eye to.
We all have these on our list; it's sort of the inverse of our "bucket
list," all of the things we desperately do not want to do. I'm
tempted to just replace the B in Bucket with and F, but let's just call
it an un-bucket list. And it's a list that will stand dead center in the
way of your success and your happiness.
So, make a promise to yourself. Today and each day for the
next two months take 30 seconds to tackle one of those items on your
un-bucket list. When I say tackle I mean go for it with everything
you've got; 30 seconds of unbounded, no holds barred, glorious courage.
You can be gentle, compassionate, direct, bullish--whatever, just take
it head on. Just 30 seconds, and then move on to the next item.
Try it out; 30 seconds of "Damn the torpedoes, full steam
ahead" each day for 60 days. Can you spare that one-half of an hour to
change the rest of your life and create a discipline of courage?
"Courage is a discipline.
It's what we do every single day to prove to ourselves that we are not
the victims of circumstance but rather its masters."
You see, what I learned from those incredible young men
and women is that courage is not about having some sort of superhuman
capability; it's simply about taking on a little bit of what frightens
us most each day. Courage does't wait in line to take its turn, it plows
forward in the worst of circumstances--there is no right time to be
courageous. And perhaps this is the hardest lesson of all for each one
of use, entrepreneurs and mere mortals; that courage is a decision, it
is what we will it to be and it is found in the smallest of gestures and
the most insignificant of moments.
In short, courage is a discipline. It's what we do every
single day to prove to ourselves that we are not the victims of
circumstance but rather its masters.
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