By Drew
Hendricks Drew Hendricks is a tech, social media, and environmental
addict. He's written for many major publications, such as Forbes and
Entrepreneur. @ DrewAHendricks Contributor, Inc.com @ DrewAHendricks
There is a fine line between being friendly and allowing somebody to lead you down a path that jeopardizes your ability to remain effective.
Successful people understand this and do not allow the toxic among them
to take charge, but rather choose to set effective boundaries.
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Life is stressful enough for most of us. Allowing a toxic individual to ravage your immediate environment can cause havoc in your mental well-being, which can lead to physical challenges.
A bad state of mind not only affects your physical
well-being but makes it difficult for you to respond calmly under
pressure. Ninety percent of top performers are skilled at managing their emotions,
so your ability to perform effectively can be affected if you do not
adopt strategies that will allow you to deal with toxic people.
1. Successful People Establish Boundaries
There is a fine line between being friendly and allowing somebody to lead you down a path that jeopardizes your ability to remain effective.
Successful people understand this and do not allow the toxic among them
to take charge, but rather choose to set effective boundaries.2. No One Limits Their Joy
How much do the words of those around you affect your state
of mind? Successful people have mastered the ability to ensure that the
negative remarks of others do not affect their strong sense of
accomplishment. Toxic people like to break you down with rude, hurtful
comments, and gain satisfaction from watching you fall apart.
Learn to react less to the opinions of others, especially those you know do not have your well-being at heart.
3. They Have Mastered the Art of Rising Above
I learned this from John Rampton from Due
when he was on stage at TC Disrupt. “By mastering the act of rising
above, successful people are able to remain rational and calm in the
presence of the irrational and chaotic. They master rising above the
rest, no matter what the circumstance,” Rampton said.
4. They Are Solution Focused
Do you spend more time focused on the negative person and how they affect your life than on achieving your goals? If so, then you have a problem. Instead of focusing on the negative, focus on your goals.
5. They Understand the Importance of Support
Reach out to your mentors, chances are, they have
experienced what you are going through. There is a good chance that
co-workers, team members, even family and friends have useful tips to
help you get by. The emotionally intelligent understand how to tap into
their resources to get through the challenges of working with toxic
people.
6. They Are Aware
Self-awareness is important, because it involves knowing
what it takes to push your buttons in order to prevent it from
happening. Lack of emotional control is a great way to empower the toxic
people in your life.
7. Forget-Me-Nots
Being forgiving comes with being emotionally intelligent. It
allows you to remain unburdened by the mistakes of others and to have
peace of mind. But being forgiving does not mean forgetting whom you can
and cannot trust. It just means you stop wasting mental energy on those
you cannot trust.
8. They Store Their Energy for Better Opportunities
As I have mentioned several times, the toxic thrive on
chaos, and will do anything to have the ability to take you down to
their level. Learning to understand your limits will help you to stay
away from dangerous situations. Choose your battles wisely, and conserve
your energy for bigger and better things.
Final Thoughts
Those we look up to as being the "bigger person" or as being
able to conduct themselves in the most challenging of situations do not
have a magic solution in their back pockets, but they have worked hard
to become emotionally intelligent people. What are some of the
challenges you have experienced with toxic people?
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